week 7 ~ Misinterepretation

Nonverbal messages are so easy to be taken as wrong messages, and if a person is not aware of this kind of language it becomes even harder. When me and my husband just got married, we always has arguments, because he said that my body language expressed sadness and almost as if I was depressed. I listened to him, and I thought he was crazy for thinking that, but the more he pointed things out, the more I saw why he would think that I was expressing sadness. I think that I was very unaware of nonverbal messages, and the more I learned certain body expressions, or moves I restrained from doing it. So  what was I doing to make it look like I was depressed? I would sit and stare at a wall, and this would last for even few minutes, and my face had a strong expression that looked like madness. What was I really thinking? I would just think simple thoughts, or planned something, but making that face was my habit, and I did not know how it looked from a side, until my husband once snapped a phone picture of me. It sure opened my eyes, and I saw what others did, and I wanted to change that. I learned to control my expressions, and my body language. I notice others do the same thing I did, and I'll ask them if they are upset at something, and the immediate answer would be "of course not". Sometimes when it's a close person I try to share my experiment with them, and would want to inform them that it is important to study nonverbal messages.