Difficult Patterns

The pattern that I think would be most difficult to change is "competitive symmetrical" pattern. The reason why I think that it wound be the hardest to change is, because a person that always fights to be the one-up will not give up no matter what. I am speaking from a personal experience, and I happen to be married to a person who tries to be the one-up all the time, even when he is wrong. Almost all of the time in an argument he has to be the one who is right and who takes the control, and it is hard for him to see that someone else can be more right than him. I think that competitive symmetrical and submissive symmetry both can be very damaging, because in one case you can be too controlling, and in the second case there's lack of control, which can make things hard and create arguments in a relationship. The pattern that I think would be most damaging to self-esteem is submissive symmetry, because a person that lacks control and decision making, most of the time lacks self-esteem. Sometimes in life those people are often told that they need a life partner who has competitive symmetrical pattern, and then there would be balance.