FIlters I use

I agree with Duck's theory, it makes perfect sense. Thinking back to my "selecting the partner" years, I have used certain filters. Cognitive cues was very important, and I have eliminated certain people from potential romantic  relationship based on beliefs.  I knew what I wanted in my life, and so I had specifications that I was looking for. Sociological and pre-interaction cues  were very important too, don't get me wrong, I did care for the person to live in the same at least state where I live, also cared for physical beauty and the way he dressed. I also always liked clean people, if I noticed that a guys hair was not washed, it wold be such a turn off, also liked when guys used perfumes. So I do think that we use filters, to determine whether we can build a relationship with a certain person. When me and my husband met back in the day, in our church we clicked right away, because based on shared beliefs we already clicked, and the fact that he looked attractive physically was a plus, and so when it came to interaction, it just was too perfect for it not to work. Everyone has flaws, but once I was able to see the majority of what I wanted in a guy in him, it was enough for me to live with any other flaws he had.